There are a lot of things I'm good at, and I'm sure there are lots of things you are good at as well. Lately I realized I have some flaws. Shocking, I know....
1. I can't say no to getting frozen yogurt. Ice cream in general is my weakness. Thanks to TCBY moving in down the street from me, I've put on a good five pounds. I totally think about getting it almost every day. This week I've limited myself to once. It's only Wednesday. Small victories.
2. Cooking. It's not that i'm a terrible cook; it's the fact that I don't cook for myself. Tonight I reheated a frozen lasagna, and that's the closest I've come to cooking for myself in weeks. I've eaten a lot of take out. A lot.
3. Letting things go. Once I get an idea in my head, I'm bound and determined to do it. I don't like to be told no.
4. Painting my fingernails. I've stopped biting my fingernails, and I've started painting them instead. It never fails that they look like crap before the end of the day.
5. Making friends. I have friends, and I have made efforts to make new ones lately. It's great when I'm hanging out by the pool, but it's time to take some steps to find some friends that I can call on the week days.
Don't worry there are plenty of other things I can add to the list, but why be a downer? I'm going to stop there, and enjoy my night. You should, too.
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Monday, July 11, 2011
The Bachelorette, Episode 7
After taking a week off, I'm ready to continue on this train wreck as Ashley searches for true love in foreign countries. Apparently this tv show has become a great travel brochure for "the perfect places to fall in love".
Tonight we're in Taiwan. It's apparently the hidden jewel of Asia. This surprises me. I know about Taiwan due to the fact it's stamped on 90% of any household product.
Chris Harrison plays history channel and tells us it's the 100th anniversary of Taiwan, and explains the rules again. This is getting old; Hasn't this show been on forever? If you don't know how it works, you've been living in a cave for years.
JP doesn't want other guys to go on dates with Ashley. He's become one of those people on the show. I'm sorry JP, you are ridiculously cute, but that's how this game goes.
Constantine gets the one on one date. JP is crushed and is ready to propose. They start the romantic date on an awkward steam engine ride. Ashley things going to tiny villages is a perfect places to wear sky high heels, backless shirt, and skin tight jeans. I mean to each their own, but Ashely sure seems to shop at Forever 21 far too much. Trendy is her middle name. He "holds her hand and touches her leg and the date is off to a great start".
Seriously; how does she walk her jeans? It's a love lantern festival. Luckily it just so happens there's a lantern for our lovely couple waiting for them. They write their love wishes.
Meanwhile, the home boys back at the hotel get the next date card. Ben gets a one-on-one date. Ryan still doesn't get a one-on-one date. Mr. Sunshine is starting to lose his sun. And is growing some terrible hair/facial hair combo.
Constantine apparently has a big family. I hope we see his home. I want to know if his family has terrible hair cuts too. Physically he's exactly what Ashley is attracted to. So yes, she has a thing for 90s hair. They zoom in on his sweet bracelets that I wore in junior high because Jennifer Aniston wore them. Yes, he loves the 90s. I give props to Constantine for saying if he falls in love. Had he been a girl, he would have already word vomited out the L word. They release their love wish lantern, and music awkwardly plays as they make out. Ashley saw some things "she loves in Constantine" She will use the L word to describe things. He's getting a rose, I bet.
Ben meets Ashley on a cliff where she's sporting a long tank, short jeans, and shockingly tennis shoes . They are exploring the park in sweet helmets and on a moped. Ben says "they are going places"
Adventurous sounding music play as they ride around. Ben is ridiculously cheesy. Of course they find a great bridge to walk around and make out.
Home boys receive another date card. Sunshine is nervous. Lucas, Ames, and JP are on the group date. Mr. Sunshine is finally getting his one-on-one. He may explode he's so excited. I can't believe he didn't jump on the couch.
Woah. Ben is the first to say he's "falling in love with Ashley" He's going to word vomit out the L word. They have big ass glasses of wine. I think Ashley insults the wine guy by saying it's like his wine. Ben plays confident and says he'll share more about wine on the home town date next week. He dances around basically telling Ashley he loves her. He's word vomiting left and right. I dig the color of Ashley's dinner dress. Ashley likes the word vomit and they have awkward kisses then move to making out by a fire. Oh...I don't like the bottom of her dress. Another Forever 21 dress.
The next morning, Ben is still on his date with Ashley. JP is crushed, and the other guys are disappointed. Hello Shacker! He comes in looking sheepish. I'm sure Ashley's mom is so proud...They say they didn't share a room. Somehow that's doubtful to me. I like Ben; he's rocking a seersucker blazer.
On the group date, Ashley has an exciting day planned of taking fake wedding photos. In the real world, these guys would take off running. This is reality TV, so they aren't.
Lucas is rocking a Chinese MuMu, Ames is in an amazing 70s blue tux, and JP comes out in and a little bit too big black tux. Ames and Lucas aren't happy with their outfit choices. Ashley wants to know if they are going to look cute in wedding photos. That's what I think when I meet a guy....will he look good in wedding photos.
Lucas is a bit stiff and isn't a great smiler. Their kiss is awkward during the photo, and JP looks like he's about to fight. He doesn't understand the concept of the show.
Ames and Ashley are literally kissing in a Tree.
Ashley in a terrible 80s dress and tiara and JP take their wedding photos. JP isn't into it, and just wants ashley to himself. Once again he doesn't understand the concept of how this show works.
Ashley is surprised the guys didn't have as much fun as she thought they would. Ummm what kind of dates does she go on typically? I don't know of any guys that would find that date fun. I do like her green dress. Lucas says he felt foolish watching her in a beautiful white dress with JP. Beautiful isn't a word I'd use to describe that white wedding dress. Lucas misses the simple life of being married. They make out, but I'm not 100% sure she's that into him.
Ames shows off family photos. He came prepared. We find out he was unpopular until he was 16. He probably started fake tanning then. He's kind of like a giggly school girl when he talks to her. I do give him a thumbs up for his nantucket red pants. I may dig preppy clothes....
JP basically says he's not doing great with being on the show. He throws out there that Ben got an overnight dates. He was fishing for an answer. He seems like the jealous type, but he's cute. He gets the rose from Ashley. It's official, we're meeting JP's family next week. And they make out. I can't say I've ever made out with multiple guys in one night. That may have just made my bucket list.
Mr. Sunshine runs to great Ashley on their first date. She's wearing one of those split back shirts from Forever 21, that I just don't get. I'm surprised she's in flats and not in wedges or heels. Ryan talks 90 to nothing about how excited he is. Ashley says the word "amazing" several times as they watch people praying to different gods. Mr. Sunshine finds it so romantic and intimate. I'm not so sure that's what I'd called the experience. They make wishes to the match making god and basically take a crap shot to see if it comes true. Sadly, their wishes won't come true. Awkward....
The date continues on to some steps to watch people do Tai Chi. This date would be so boring for me. Mr. Sunshine is talking a crap ton of nonsense about Tai Chi. Ashley admits she doesn't feel that romantic connection there. This date is awkward. Ashley has a terrible fake smile on. She's now trying to figure out how to break it off with Mr. Sunshine without him pulling a scary upset fit on her. He seems the type, admit it.
It "exceeds all of Mr. Sunshine's expectations". They sit down to a picnic. More awkward faces from Ashley. He asks her what she does for the environment. Ashley admits she's a rebel for throwing away a plastic bottle. Ryan gives her a lesson on water heaters. Ashley attempts to look interested, but is failing. Ryan informs her, he can't wait for her to meet his family. Cue awkward face and sad music. Ashley cries and informs him that "she's her perfect guy, but is not feeling a connection" Mr. Sunshine's face is crumbling. Oh dear, he's trying not to cry. Well, the match making gods were correct in not granting his love wish. He 'didn't see this coming'...I did. He should've looked at her face. He sits down a spell and has a good cry. It's ok buddy; There's someone out there that will enjoy jumping on couches with you. Ryan wants real never ending love. I do too, but I also know love most likely isn't found on a reality TV dating show. The make him hail a cab back to the hotel.
Ashley's BFF/Therapist, Chris Harrison sits Ashley down for a little chat. Ashley informs Chris that she doesn't want a cocktail party because she's made up her decision. Obviously Ashley doesn't understand the fun of an open bar. The producers must hate this because cocktail parties end up with drunken contestants and fun drama.
Lucas is worried, and I think he should be. I'm pretty positive that he is going home and that he knows it. Chris tries to help the guy's ego by telling them that this was a tough decision as Ashley looks over a bridge and walks by.
Constantine, Ben, and Ames all get a rose. Lucas gives a cute scrunched nose look to Ashley. JP informs Ames that he did not expect that. Ames did not like to hear that. Lucas is a true Southern gentleman and goes out with class. Ashley doubts her decision, but at least she hasn't said the name Bentley tonight. Next week, we meet the families. Hopefully it will be interesting.
Chris Harrison gives a Bachelor update as informs America that sometimes the engagements on this show don't work out.....ummm no crap. Emily, aka Barbie, has gotten even smaller. I didn't know that was possible. She gets out of the limo crying. Emily will always be in love with Brad....Really? I don't think so otherwise you two would be married. It sounds as if Bachelor Brad was a cheater and couldn't really handle being in a relationship. Well, what a shocker. Another bachelor relationship is officially over. If they bring her back as the Bachelorette, shoot me now.
Tonight we're in Taiwan. It's apparently the hidden jewel of Asia. This surprises me. I know about Taiwan due to the fact it's stamped on 90% of any household product.
Chris Harrison plays history channel and tells us it's the 100th anniversary of Taiwan, and explains the rules again. This is getting old; Hasn't this show been on forever? If you don't know how it works, you've been living in a cave for years.
JP doesn't want other guys to go on dates with Ashley. He's become one of those people on the show. I'm sorry JP, you are ridiculously cute, but that's how this game goes.
Constantine gets the one on one date. JP is crushed and is ready to propose. They start the romantic date on an awkward steam engine ride. Ashley things going to tiny villages is a perfect places to wear sky high heels, backless shirt, and skin tight jeans. I mean to each their own, but Ashely sure seems to shop at Forever 21 far too much. Trendy is her middle name. He "holds her hand and touches her leg and the date is off to a great start".
Seriously; how does she walk her jeans? It's a love lantern festival. Luckily it just so happens there's a lantern for our lovely couple waiting for them. They write their love wishes.
Meanwhile, the home boys back at the hotel get the next date card. Ben gets a one-on-one date. Ryan still doesn't get a one-on-one date. Mr. Sunshine is starting to lose his sun. And is growing some terrible hair/facial hair combo.
Constantine apparently has a big family. I hope we see his home. I want to know if his family has terrible hair cuts too. Physically he's exactly what Ashley is attracted to. So yes, she has a thing for 90s hair. They zoom in on his sweet bracelets that I wore in junior high because Jennifer Aniston wore them. Yes, he loves the 90s. I give props to Constantine for saying if he falls in love. Had he been a girl, he would have already word vomited out the L word. They release their love wish lantern, and music awkwardly plays as they make out. Ashley saw some things "she loves in Constantine" She will use the L word to describe things. He's getting a rose, I bet.
Ben meets Ashley on a cliff where she's sporting a long tank, short jeans, and shockingly tennis shoes . They are exploring the park in sweet helmets and on a moped. Ben says "they are going places"
Adventurous sounding music play as they ride around. Ben is ridiculously cheesy. Of course they find a great bridge to walk around and make out.
Home boys receive another date card. Sunshine is nervous. Lucas, Ames, and JP are on the group date. Mr. Sunshine is finally getting his one-on-one. He may explode he's so excited. I can't believe he didn't jump on the couch.
Woah. Ben is the first to say he's "falling in love with Ashley" He's going to word vomit out the L word. They have big ass glasses of wine. I think Ashley insults the wine guy by saying it's like his wine. Ben plays confident and says he'll share more about wine on the home town date next week. He dances around basically telling Ashley he loves her. He's word vomiting left and right. I dig the color of Ashley's dinner dress. Ashley likes the word vomit and they have awkward kisses then move to making out by a fire. Oh...I don't like the bottom of her dress. Another Forever 21 dress.
The next morning, Ben is still on his date with Ashley. JP is crushed, and the other guys are disappointed. Hello Shacker! He comes in looking sheepish. I'm sure Ashley's mom is so proud...They say they didn't share a room. Somehow that's doubtful to me. I like Ben; he's rocking a seersucker blazer.
On the group date, Ashley has an exciting day planned of taking fake wedding photos. In the real world, these guys would take off running. This is reality TV, so they aren't.
Lucas is rocking a Chinese MuMu, Ames is in an amazing 70s blue tux, and JP comes out in and a little bit too big black tux. Ames and Lucas aren't happy with their outfit choices. Ashley wants to know if they are going to look cute in wedding photos. That's what I think when I meet a guy....will he look good in wedding photos.
Lucas is a bit stiff and isn't a great smiler. Their kiss is awkward during the photo, and JP looks like he's about to fight. He doesn't understand the concept of the show.
Ames and Ashley are literally kissing in a Tree.
Ashley in a terrible 80s dress and tiara and JP take their wedding photos. JP isn't into it, and just wants ashley to himself. Once again he doesn't understand the concept of how this show works.
Ashley is surprised the guys didn't have as much fun as she thought they would. Ummm what kind of dates does she go on typically? I don't know of any guys that would find that date fun. I do like her green dress. Lucas says he felt foolish watching her in a beautiful white dress with JP. Beautiful isn't a word I'd use to describe that white wedding dress. Lucas misses the simple life of being married. They make out, but I'm not 100% sure she's that into him.
Ames shows off family photos. He came prepared. We find out he was unpopular until he was 16. He probably started fake tanning then. He's kind of like a giggly school girl when he talks to her. I do give him a thumbs up for his nantucket red pants. I may dig preppy clothes....
JP basically says he's not doing great with being on the show. He throws out there that Ben got an overnight dates. He was fishing for an answer. He seems like the jealous type, but he's cute. He gets the rose from Ashley. It's official, we're meeting JP's family next week. And they make out. I can't say I've ever made out with multiple guys in one night. That may have just made my bucket list.
Mr. Sunshine runs to great Ashley on their first date. She's wearing one of those split back shirts from Forever 21, that I just don't get. I'm surprised she's in flats and not in wedges or heels. Ryan talks 90 to nothing about how excited he is. Ashley says the word "amazing" several times as they watch people praying to different gods. Mr. Sunshine finds it so romantic and intimate. I'm not so sure that's what I'd called the experience. They make wishes to the match making god and basically take a crap shot to see if it comes true. Sadly, their wishes won't come true. Awkward....
The date continues on to some steps to watch people do Tai Chi. This date would be so boring for me. Mr. Sunshine is talking a crap ton of nonsense about Tai Chi. Ashley admits she doesn't feel that romantic connection there. This date is awkward. Ashley has a terrible fake smile on. She's now trying to figure out how to break it off with Mr. Sunshine without him pulling a scary upset fit on her. He seems the type, admit it.
It "exceeds all of Mr. Sunshine's expectations". They sit down to a picnic. More awkward faces from Ashley. He asks her what she does for the environment. Ashley admits she's a rebel for throwing away a plastic bottle. Ryan gives her a lesson on water heaters. Ashley attempts to look interested, but is failing. Ryan informs her, he can't wait for her to meet his family. Cue awkward face and sad music. Ashley cries and informs him that "she's her perfect guy, but is not feeling a connection" Mr. Sunshine's face is crumbling. Oh dear, he's trying not to cry. Well, the match making gods were correct in not granting his love wish. He 'didn't see this coming'...I did. He should've looked at her face. He sits down a spell and has a good cry. It's ok buddy; There's someone out there that will enjoy jumping on couches with you. Ryan wants real never ending love. I do too, but I also know love most likely isn't found on a reality TV dating show. The make him hail a cab back to the hotel.
Ashley's BFF/Therapist, Chris Harrison sits Ashley down for a little chat. Ashley informs Chris that she doesn't want a cocktail party because she's made up her decision. Obviously Ashley doesn't understand the fun of an open bar. The producers must hate this because cocktail parties end up with drunken contestants and fun drama.
Lucas is worried, and I think he should be. I'm pretty positive that he is going home and that he knows it. Chris tries to help the guy's ego by telling them that this was a tough decision as Ashley looks over a bridge and walks by.
Constantine, Ben, and Ames all get a rose. Lucas gives a cute scrunched nose look to Ashley. JP informs Ames that he did not expect that. Ames did not like to hear that. Lucas is a true Southern gentleman and goes out with class. Ashley doubts her decision, but at least she hasn't said the name Bentley tonight. Next week, we meet the families. Hopefully it will be interesting.
Chris Harrison gives a Bachelor update as informs America that sometimes the engagements on this show don't work out.....ummm no crap. Emily, aka Barbie, has gotten even smaller. I didn't know that was possible. She gets out of the limo crying. Emily will always be in love with Brad....Really? I don't think so otherwise you two would be married. It sounds as if Bachelor Brad was a cheater and couldn't really handle being in a relationship. Well, what a shocker. Another bachelor relationship is officially over. If they bring her back as the Bachelorette, shoot me now.
Sunday, July 10, 2011
Egos and Pool Parties
This past weekend I spent 10 hours at my apartment pool. They were having a pool party, and I am amazed by how many people were out there. I made new friends, and I had a lot of fun. I was told today that I "was working the crowd" by my neighbor whatever that means.
Sneak-a-Date boy came over to talk to me. I can't say it was welcomed. He's a nice guy, but I'm not interested other than being friends. He mentioned that he had texted me earlier this week about hanging out, and I said I didn't get one. This honestly should have been hint number one to this guy that I'm not so into him. Had I been interested, I obviously would've replied with a quickness. I'm not good with being subtle. (apparently just ask half the people at my apartment complex that saw me flirting this past weekend)
He said it was right after we had gotten back from fireworks. I said something to the affect of oh yeah; I must have been asleep and I'm pretty terrible about responding to texts the next day if I don't do it immediately. (lies, all lies) Sneak-a-Date boy (not sure why i'm calling him a boy. He's 35) then informed me that he would like to cook dinner for me and asked me what I'd like to eat. I was honest and informed him that I'm picky like a 10 year old. I said I didn't eat seafood or red meat. He then believe suggested cooking some chicken dish. He asked when would be a good time, and I said he could just let me know. I believe then I got in the pool to avoid him.
He attempted to talk to me several times over the day. I was nice but not overly friendly. During this time one of my new friends came out and talked to me for a while. I also met some other people to talk with. By the end of the night, it as a great day. I forgot my earbuds at the pool and went to look for them. I ran into a new friend and sat down and talked with him. We discussed sneak-a-date boy asking me out, and I informed him I wanted to get out of it (yes that was a hint to the new friend to help me out) We laughed about it. While sitting in the pool chair, I got a text that said, "I'll leave you alone; I can see that you aren't interested"
Later I replied, "sorry, but I'm interested in someone right now."
his response "i've noticed, and you'll be disappointed...."
Someone's ego was a little bruised. He wouldn't inform me why I would be disappointed. Today at the pool, sneak-a-date boy completely ignored me. I was nice to this guy, but now he completely ignores me. Apparently I can't be just friends. I'm 25, and I'm ok with being single. It's fun to flirt with different people. I'm not expecting marriage from guys I flirt with at the pool. I'm just looking for new friends.
Apparently there's a little drama factor added to my apartment life. It makes me laugh. A lot. It's 24 hours later, and I'm still laughing. Sorry sneak-a-date boy; I'm just not that into you. Also, Congrats on being a new story in my life. I can't say I've ever been asked on a date to only have the offer revoked by the end of the night.
Sneak-a-Date boy came over to talk to me. I can't say it was welcomed. He's a nice guy, but I'm not interested other than being friends. He mentioned that he had texted me earlier this week about hanging out, and I said I didn't get one. This honestly should have been hint number one to this guy that I'm not so into him. Had I been interested, I obviously would've replied with a quickness. I'm not good with being subtle. (apparently just ask half the people at my apartment complex that saw me flirting this past weekend)
He said it was right after we had gotten back from fireworks. I said something to the affect of oh yeah; I must have been asleep and I'm pretty terrible about responding to texts the next day if I don't do it immediately. (lies, all lies) Sneak-a-Date boy (not sure why i'm calling him a boy. He's 35) then informed me that he would like to cook dinner for me and asked me what I'd like to eat. I was honest and informed him that I'm picky like a 10 year old. I said I didn't eat seafood or red meat. He then believe suggested cooking some chicken dish. He asked when would be a good time, and I said he could just let me know. I believe then I got in the pool to avoid him.
He attempted to talk to me several times over the day. I was nice but not overly friendly. During this time one of my new friends came out and talked to me for a while. I also met some other people to talk with. By the end of the night, it as a great day. I forgot my earbuds at the pool and went to look for them. I ran into a new friend and sat down and talked with him. We discussed sneak-a-date boy asking me out, and I informed him I wanted to get out of it (yes that was a hint to the new friend to help me out) We laughed about it. While sitting in the pool chair, I got a text that said, "I'll leave you alone; I can see that you aren't interested"
Later I replied, "sorry, but I'm interested in someone right now."
his response "i've noticed, and you'll be disappointed...."
Someone's ego was a little bruised. He wouldn't inform me why I would be disappointed. Today at the pool, sneak-a-date boy completely ignored me. I was nice to this guy, but now he completely ignores me. Apparently I can't be just friends. I'm 25, and I'm ok with being single. It's fun to flirt with different people. I'm not expecting marriage from guys I flirt with at the pool. I'm just looking for new friends.
Apparently there's a little drama factor added to my apartment life. It makes me laugh. A lot. It's 24 hours later, and I'm still laughing. Sorry sneak-a-date boy; I'm just not that into you. Also, Congrats on being a new story in my life. I can't say I've ever been asked on a date to only have the offer revoked by the end of the night.
Thursday, July 7, 2011
FWB
There's a new movie coming out called Friends With Benefits, and earlier in the year a movie called No Strings Attached came out. My parents went and saw No Strings Attached, and I wouldn't be surprised if they went to see Friends with Benefits. The funniest part is my mom and her theories on these movies, "they'd be such cute movies if it weren't for all the screwing around or the use of the F-word" I told my mom that was the entire concept of the movie and I almost let her know that some people refer to that as being F buddies. Every time I now see this trailer, I just have to laugh and think "that movie would be so cute if it weren't for all that screwing around"
Parents are funny.
Parents are funny.
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Being Bold
As a little girl, I was shy, but considering I grew up in a small town I lost the shyness as I got older. That happens when 90% of the town knows your family. I started going out to random camps on my own. There I was pretty good at venturing out of my comfort zone and making friends. Then came college, and I hung close to my high school friends for a while, but slowly I made friends with my honors business kids and sorority sisters and made some of my best friends. After leaving college, I've become quite the recluse. It's been really hard for me to make friends.
This weekend I branch out a bit and after living in my apartment complex for 11 months, I finally made an effort to get to know some of the other tenants. I'm still the shy kid that is having issues including myself in conversations at the pool, but I'm working on it. I want work on being bold and not being shy. I'm 25, isn't that old enough to text a new friend to grab dinner? Easier said than done, but I'm working on it. I'm writing this out mainly to help push myself to do this. Being a hermit isn't fun; being around people is.
I may want to move away, but that shouldn't stop me from enjoying life here until I do.
This weekend I branch out a bit and after living in my apartment complex for 11 months, I finally made an effort to get to know some of the other tenants. I'm still the shy kid that is having issues including myself in conversations at the pool, but I'm working on it. I want work on being bold and not being shy. I'm 25, isn't that old enough to text a new friend to grab dinner? Easier said than done, but I'm working on it. I'm writing this out mainly to help push myself to do this. Being a hermit isn't fun; being around people is.
I may want to move away, but that shouldn't stop me from enjoying life here until I do.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Sneak-a-Date
Have you ever been invited to an activity by a guy to hang out with his friends to find out that by his friends really means just you? That's what I like to call a sneak-a-date. I feel as if I've had my fair share of sneak-a-dates. I've probably had more sneak-a-dates than actual dates in my life. In my opinion they are awkward. Granted, my sneak-a-dates have yet to be with a guy that I've actually been interested in, because life doesn't work that way. I may have different feelings if that were the case towards sneak-a-dates.
I feel like it's the guy taking the easy way out. Be honest, just ask a girl out. Don't let her think she's hanging out with a group of people to only find out that "group of people" is the two of you. Sure it gets you one date, but odds aren't in your favor for date number two. It makes me very suspicious of group hang outs. If the tables were turned and I did that to a guy, I'm pretty sure he'd find me creepy. Let's put an end to sneak-a-dates. If you want to ask a girl out, do it. And if she tells you no, then it saves you your time and money. It's a win win situation here.
And yes, last night I went on a sneak-a-date to watch fireworks with someone from my apartment complex. Nice guy, but I'm not interested. The group of friends turned out to be just the two of us. Not quite what I pictured when I agreed to go. Secretly I may have wished someone was going to be in attendance, but life doesn't work out that way.
I feel like it's the guy taking the easy way out. Be honest, just ask a girl out. Don't let her think she's hanging out with a group of people to only find out that "group of people" is the two of you. Sure it gets you one date, but odds aren't in your favor for date number two. It makes me very suspicious of group hang outs. If the tables were turned and I did that to a guy, I'm pretty sure he'd find me creepy. Let's put an end to sneak-a-dates. If you want to ask a girl out, do it. And if she tells you no, then it saves you your time and money. It's a win win situation here.
And yes, last night I went on a sneak-a-date to watch fireworks with someone from my apartment complex. Nice guy, but I'm not interested. The group of friends turned out to be just the two of us. Not quite what I pictured when I agreed to go. Secretly I may have wished someone was going to be in attendance, but life doesn't work out that way.
Friday, July 1, 2011
Being Single isn't a Disease
For 98% of my life, I've been single. I'm not a serial dater; heck it's been so long I'm not really sure what an actual date is at this point. Honestly, 98% of the time I'm perfectly fine being single. I enjoy hanging out with myself or with the girls. I'm also not patient so I don't see myself as ever being good at the whole dating game. I'm not good with games.
My biggest pet peeves are family events where I'm questioned about my job and if I have a boyfriend. Thankfully I have a full time job so I actually have an answer to one of those questions. "What's a girl like you doing still single?" "I'm sure you're out dating all the time" "Going to get married anytime soon?" I despite all of those questions. I get it; I'm from the South and people tend to get married younger. The fact I'm 25 and have yet to be in a serious relationship is weird to people (like my grandmother, parents, family friends, etc...), but honestly what's wrong with it. When did being single get such a negative connotation?
A few months ago I got a facebook invite to a women's get together. I only knew the hostess, but I've been thinking I should make more friends in the area. I thought why not give this a try. As I arrive at the get together, I realize all the women there are from the girl's community group and all of them are newly married. They were still very nice to hang out with. Then I met another girl named, Sarah. Thinking back to the facebook invite list, I realize she wasn't on there. It hit me....I'm 95% sure my name was added by accident. I wasn't supposed to be invited to this newly wed girls night. The topics mainly were lives with their new husbands. They even brought up how they just don't hang out with single people anymore. Once you're married things are different and you find yourself doing things more with couples than your single friends who "just don't understand" I left that night and was told it was nice meeting me. I was also told they'd let me know when they all got together again. Either they haven't gotten together in the past 3 almost 4 months or.......they didn't invite the single person back.
My mom encourages me to join a church; Find a Sunday school class full of singles. That screams desperate city to me, and I have a feeling most people go to those things to meet people. In my opinion, I'll meet someone. I'm 25; I'm bound to date at some point. It's not a big deal. I don't think i'm weird. I just think I'm in a life stage that makes things a little difficult to meet people. Do your single friends a favor next time, and don't ask them why they are single. We don't appreciate that.
My biggest pet peeves are family events where I'm questioned about my job and if I have a boyfriend. Thankfully I have a full time job so I actually have an answer to one of those questions. "What's a girl like you doing still single?" "I'm sure you're out dating all the time" "Going to get married anytime soon?" I despite all of those questions. I get it; I'm from the South and people tend to get married younger. The fact I'm 25 and have yet to be in a serious relationship is weird to people (like my grandmother, parents, family friends, etc...), but honestly what's wrong with it. When did being single get such a negative connotation?
A few months ago I got a facebook invite to a women's get together. I only knew the hostess, but I've been thinking I should make more friends in the area. I thought why not give this a try. As I arrive at the get together, I realize all the women there are from the girl's community group and all of them are newly married. They were still very nice to hang out with. Then I met another girl named, Sarah. Thinking back to the facebook invite list, I realize she wasn't on there. It hit me....I'm 95% sure my name was added by accident. I wasn't supposed to be invited to this newly wed girls night. The topics mainly were lives with their new husbands. They even brought up how they just don't hang out with single people anymore. Once you're married things are different and you find yourself doing things more with couples than your single friends who "just don't understand" I left that night and was told it was nice meeting me. I was also told they'd let me know when they all got together again. Either they haven't gotten together in the past 3 almost 4 months or.......they didn't invite the single person back.
My mom encourages me to join a church; Find a Sunday school class full of singles. That screams desperate city to me, and I have a feeling most people go to those things to meet people. In my opinion, I'll meet someone. I'm 25; I'm bound to date at some point. It's not a big deal. I don't think i'm weird. I just think I'm in a life stage that makes things a little difficult to meet people. Do your single friends a favor next time, and don't ask them why they are single. We don't appreciate that.
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